Ghosts of Dating Past || The Red Flags


The football game last night was AWESOME! And late. And I am really sleepy today. But I got to have a nice dinner with my husband, watch an entire game with the man I love, sit front row to cheer on the Cougars (the BYU kind... none of this "which Cougar were you cheering for?" business), and get a Cougar tail.. what is a Cougar tail? FEAST YOUR EYES ON THIS!

Doesn't that look delicious? Yeah. Everyone loves a Coug-tail. But one thing I was not planning on happening last night is seeing every single boy that I had a bad date with in my life. I swear they were around EVERY single corner. And as I mentioned before, I was with Adam... and it made me that much more grateful for those bad dating experiences that led me to Adam.

But... in the meantime. I want to give you single women out there a list of man red-flags.
  1. If a man frequently forgets his wallet or keeps taking you to costly places on dates and asks you to split the tab... maybe you should make sure he isn't a little boy that got his allowance cut. A real man will always pay.
  2. If a man asks you not once, not twice... but SIX different times if you want to skip with him... take his man card and then never accept a date again.
  3. If he texts you after the 10 o'clock hour; do not go over. I hate to be the barer of bad news. But he probably isn't into you. He is just looking for something a litttttle different than a relationship. DO NOT FALL FOR IT. This includes invites to go for a drive, watch a movie, stargaze, etc. etc. etc.
  4. On the other hand... if texting or calling frequently is too hard for him and he goes days in between. You aren't his first choice. If he wants to talk to you. He will talk to you. And he will make time for you.
  5. Praying at dinner... at Applebees. Not saying it is a bad thing. But if he asks you if you want to pray with him, pauses for a second, says he will pray by himself, finishes, looks up and says, "Don't worry. I blessed yours too.." It is a little awkward. 
  6. Holds your hand one day. Wont hold your hand the next day. That screams commitment issues. Don't jump the gun there buddy.
  7. Watch out for the first date movie renter. "I was thinking we could grab some ice cream and a redbox (especially be cautious when he picks a movie he has seen before) and go to my place?".... Chances are he doesn't want to get to know you. Movies aren't produced so you can go to the theater and catch up with an old friend.
  8. Never go on dates with roommates if the first one was ended by you. It is just a touchy subject for all.
  9. If he texts you a little later in the evening saying, "Hey girl(sweetie, babe, or any other generic name)! What are you up to tonight?" Chances are it is a mass text. Sorry again to be the barer of bad news.
  10. If a man likes Twilight MORE than you... (and I will be honest, I dont like it that much... but we went to the midnight showing because HE wanted too...) refer to the solution in number 2.
There are a lot more... A LOT MORE people. This is just a small compilation of what my dating history has been. And I can't help but think I dated a bunch of CRAZY people so I would be that much more appreciative of Adam. If I had met Adam first, I would have assumed every guy was like him and then been very disappointed.

A little more on Adam. His first OFFICIAL Love, The Skinnys blog post will be tomorrow. Adam has claimed Saturday as his blogging day. So look forward to a man's words tomorrow.

Jessica Bracey said...

Diedre, i simple LOVE your blog!! :) You are amazing!

Gloria Littlefield said...

i dont think you understand how jealous i am that i didnt get a cougar tail :(((

Anonymous said...

Did all those things really happen to you??

Susan said...
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Susan said...

Now what I want to know is were these all separate boys, or were some of these infractions by the same guy?
I think you're right, too! It's amazing how our past experiences shape our lives.

Anonymous said...

I just found your blog.
That is hilarious that he wanted to pray at applebees. I'm not against praying or anything I just don't usually pray when I go OUT to eat! haha

Ashley Eliza said...

best. post. of. my. life.

oh blessed dating. i really shoudl blog mroe about dating.. i just get hesitant because family/and ex's read it haha..


Kelsey Eaton said...

So awesome! So many of those rang true. So glad to be married to my wonderful husband and not dealing with that diaster anymore. ;)

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