Our Story || Part Seven

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So I said, "What?" And Adam text back to say he could come with us to The Haunted Forest. So we head out on a date, which I planned to pay for since I invited him, but he paid. And through the whole first half of the scaryness he held my hand tight. But as soon as we exited to wait in the next line, he let go. And I was so sad. So I decided it was over. And I decided I would just make the best of the time I had with him.

But about halfway through the wait he looked at me, straight in the eyes, and he pulled me into his arms, and he said, "You are so pretty." And from there to the end of the Haunted Forest he held my hand and he held me close. And even when we left all things haunted and spooky. He kept holding on. And then the rest is history. One week later we were Facebook official. One month later we said I love you. He came to Idaho to see my home. He left to the Dominican for Thanksgiving week and we couldn't talk much if at all. I went to meet his whole family over New Years. Five months later he asked and I said yes. And then three months after that we were sealed in the Salt Lake Temple for time and eternity.

That might seem like a really quick end to our story. After all that buildup and hype.  And I realize that I left out a lot of dating details... only because those dates don't make up our story. It was everything leading up to that. After all the drama and things that went wrong... it came together really quickly. But that is because I knew it was right and I didn't want to put things off anymore. And Adam felt the same way. And when nothing seemed like it was going to work out, somehow it did. And I am happier for it. 

I love him more every single day. I couldn't have found a man more considerate and caring than Adam. He knows how to respect not only a woman, but everyone he meets. And he knows how to make me feel like the most special girl in the world. He can always make me smile, even when the world seems to be plotting against me... and even better, I get more laughing side-aches and happy tears than I have ever gotten before. I am lucky to have him as my other half.

And we are living happily ever after.

Our Story || Part Six

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A few hours later Adam text me back, he was at practice but he would call me later. He called me within seconds of me walking in the door from work. I asked if we could talk in person, and when he got back from campus he stopped by.

Isn't he just so handsome in a uniform?

I felt like I had a lot of explaining to do... at the first of our relationship I was really aggressive. Mostly because I knew Adam was a good guy and I knew there were lots of girls in our ward pursuing him, even if he didn't realize it. But with all the girls pursuing him I wanted to be his first choice. But what I didn't realize was, first, that Adam would be so ready for a relationship and that me being aggressive would make me be the one he would want it with. And my second realization once he was ready to start something, I didn't totally know if I was ready to date someone again. I had gotten out of a long relationship only two weeks before I met Adam. Yeah... I pushed really hard for Adam. I wanted him to notice me. But at the same time, there were guys pursuing me, and I didn't totally know if I was ready to give that up... because I didn't know what I wanted. And I was confused. I was sort of mean to Adam. And I took for granted the guy that he was. I kept telling him I "needed time" even though I kept dating him... because I was dating other guys too. One of those guys being my ex-boyfriend for some odd reason. But Adam didn't know any of that. To him, I was just messing with his head... I don't know. I guess I was, because I couldn't communicate my feeling very well. Because I couldn't understand them very well. Either way... I needed to put it all together in my head. I needed to tell Adam that through the last couple weeks I had slowly ended things with each guy and that is why I was taking so long to get back to him on whether or not I was really ready to date. When he got to my apartment the nerves really set in.

The conversation was long. But to sum it up. I told him I was wrong. Because I was. I told him that I was not sure of my feelings and where I was before due to my recent break up. I told him I missed him. And I told him that I wanted another chance because I still really cared for him. After me pouring and pouring out my feelings. Adam told me he still had feelings for me but I really hurt him. And that it would take time for anything to happen, but he was willing to talk and things would get better. He headed home early that night to get some rest for his scrimmage the next day.

The next day my roommate and I head over to his game. He pitched one inning and did awesome. And I text him after to tell him he was great and asked if he wanted to come over for a little bit. Little did he know he was walking into a trap. My roommate and I decided we would invite him to the Haunted Forest with us that evening, even though we knew he already had a date. When he came over my roommate so brilliantly cornered him and made him feel like he should come. But he said no, no, and no again.

About an hour later I get a text from Adam, "Guess what?"

To be continued...

Our Story || Part Five

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I told Adam to come over and lets talk. I had decided the night before after a particurally bad date and a long conversation with my roommate I was ready to get into a real relationship with Adam and I was going to tell him. But Adam came over and, before I could say anything, said, "I'm done."

One of the happier moments before, what we like to call, "The Off Week".

My heart stopped. All I could say was, "Well, I was going to tell you I was ready to date you." And basically from there on it went back and forth. He said no, I said yes, he said he couldn't do it anymore, I cried and asked him to change his mind. And then eventually I had to let it go and figure out what I was going to do. I talked to his roommate about it. I talked to my roommate about it. I talked to my family. I talked to his teammate. I went to the temple every night. I cried a lot. And then I decided... I needed to talk to Adam. No more waiting. No more games. It was now or never. And I needed him to know I was going to work hard and I was going to win him this time! And not only that.. I was going to ask him on a date.

So I text him, "Hey, can we talk?"

To Be Continued....

Our Story || Part Four

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The next day during my lunch break I get a text, "Do you think she needs a Mandarin or Cantonese Chinese book?" And that began text after text after text. He bought the Book of Mormon for me, and so he needed to bring it over that night, obviously. He stayed over for an hour, but before leaving for FHE he asked me out for a breakfast date. He came over later that night. He came over the next day. He drove with my to the post office the next day. We watched a Red Box the next day. And then Friday was a bit of a football/ex-boyfriend/dance party/friends from home misunderstand... but we wont get into that. Unless you really want me to?

And then the next morning was date morning! At 7:55 Adam called me for our 8:00 AM date.... and woke me up.

Our third date.
But our first photo from any date.

Adam: Did I wake you up?
Deidre: Umm... no. But yeah.
Adam: Well do you want to postpone our date?
Deidre: No! Give me 10 minutes. And I will be ready. I really want to go.
Adam: Okay. I will be over in 10 minutes.

And ten minutes later I was ready to go get french toast at Kneaders. French toast, great conversation, then an invitation to watch conference at his house. And that led into many days together, many dates out and about, and many conversations. And Adam instantly became my best friends. Only... I wasn't smart enough to realize it. And after of Adam trying to win me over and me being stubborn - there is a lot more to this part of the story, but if you want more, let me know - Adam text me and said, "We need to talk..."

To be continued....

Our Story || Part Three

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I showed up at Adam's door and knocked. I was really nervous, since I never got a text back, that he wasn't going to answer and that I would have to walk home and tell my roommate how much of a dummy I was, again... But he answered!

Okay... so not exactly a photo from that night. But this is where we sat that first night.
And Adam didn't pretend he was sleeping. And I didn't make a grumpy face. Just pretend!

He invited me inside and for the next hour we showed each other YouTube videos and talked. We got to know each other better, talking about siblings and family and school and so on. And then when I realized it was probably time for me to go he walked me to the door. And he offered to walk me home... but I said no because I felt awkward. And then we talked for another hour on the doorstep. We talked about church, the dating class, and my roommate, Linda. I told him that I wanted to buy his a Book of Mormon in Chinese and he said he would go check at the bookstore for me. But here is the kicker, he said, "Well if I go check, I should probably get your phone number to let you know if I found one?" What a smooth operator... And I gave him my number and I head home. And then a few minutes later I get a text, "Hey! I just want you to know that I think you are really great!" And the number was one off from the number I text earlier. That explains his no-reply. We exchanged a few texts and then I went to bed.

To be continued....